Swimming

I am very much in the thick of it myself at the moment. Struggling to be heard against a huge wave of denial and disapproval. I tried for years to handle my objections quietly and "in-house" - like the grooming teaches us - but then the boat was rocked by a divorce - his, the insult of a sister - his insult, and his insult of me.
In our giant hobby group, an immensely popular, old school, "socially acceptable" creeper gets the divorce. He started reaching out privately to women "friends" because his now ex-wife, who he also insulted and called names, in dms to myself and others, was no longer in the picture. He wanted to tell us all about that, he's single now, you know, and all about her., and none of it nice.
When I tried to address this behavior, he mentioned another "crazy" woman who had recently told him something similar, and said that he needed to stop the uninvited creeping. He wondered what is wrong with all these people trying to say he is creepy? I told him that this particular crazy woman is like a sister to me, and one of the people she is talking about is me. Leave us alone. Leave our friends alone. Leave the noobs alone.
Stop creeping.
He told me that even his friends had recently told him he needed to quit being creepy. I told him it's as easy as that, and everyone will salute you for it. And then he promptly unfriended me and started calling ME the next crazy woman saying all these wild accusations about him being this way.
I finally tried to speak openly, after all these years, and what had been my whole world exploded.
Things changed drastically, mostly for the better., though not for a while. I lost a lot of "friends". I miss the people I thought some of them were. I was essentially thrown off the ship. have been in bureaucratic hell with the organization, and faced some top notch and well documented bullying because of it, but that is just part of the job.
This is the job. Thinking about it, talking about it, studying and documenting it, exposing it, figuring out how it happens and keeps happening, and trying to learn how to change that, on every level.
How can we hold these people accountable? How can we hold the families, groups, and organizations that harbor them accountable? How can we expose the truth of it?
I'm tired of treading water, but I won't quit. I will try to build a raft of knowledge and support and save myself and others.