Facing the wall.

This learning curve seems to be a steep one for many of us. How to stand up for ones' self, speak up, try to make a change and help others, we lose so much. Families, communities, friends, partners, whole lives worth of connections who shut us out and try to just erase us because we won't back the lies. In research and therapy I have come to learn the term "truthteller", and what happens to those who can't go with the unethical flow. "Children who recognize and attempt to talk about family dysfunction (e.g., inequities, rage, neglect, boundary violations) are trying to resolve the cognitive dissonance between their experience of reality and the denials and distortions pushed by their gaslighting parent(s). Like protectors, truth-telling children in narcissistic homes may be motivated to question the family system because they are scapegoated, or they may be targeted with scapegoating because their awareness is viewed as a threat. Perceptive and often wise or even visionary, truth-tellers can be powerful social analysts, writers, fighters for justice, and whistleblowers. But seeing more than others do can also set them up for frustration, loneliness, and resentment from others who prefer to deny difficult truth." - Psychology Today Feb, 06, 2022 We face a wall of denial, disapproval, manipulations of every kind, ostracization, even lies. Whatever it takes to keep from honestly facing the music and dealing with the issue at hand, because once the there is one crack in the wall, everything will eventually come flooding in. Ask "Alec" Murdaugh about that, if you can get a prison interview. He is on trial for the first degree murder of his own wife and son in order to cover up his and his family's and his buddies sins. It is a choice whether to be a part of the wall, or to try to crack it open to bring in light, water, and air, so to speak. The cleansing things. You can throw open the gates and shutters, or stagnate in a closed and unhealthy environment. Until The end.